A birth in the family is an exciting event, and family and friends should participate if this is the wish of the birthing couple. Often family wants to help but aren't sure how, which can lead to confusion and add to the stress of the mother. The Doula can coordinate the efforts of the group, by giving them things to do and making them feel more useful. She may also help educate your family prior to labor, so that your family knows your wishes and what they can do to help you.